I was sitting at the stoplight trying to block the sounds of Twista from the car next to me by cranking the David Gray on my stereo. It was futile.
My oldest son was in the car seat behind me. We had just completed a morning of male-bonding which mainly consisted of getting my pants hemmed, buying a couple pairs of new shoes for his first day of kindergarten (brown high-top Converse and plaid Sperry top-siders), and finding a gift for the three events that we were involved in that afternoon: a baby shower, a birthday party, and a wedding. We’ve had a summer without so much as a picnic and then suddenly it’s all shoved into one day—people really need to spread themselves out.
My wife was home making cakes and lasagna.
“Why’s that kid by himself?”
“He’s holding a sign,” I said.
“What does it say?”
That’s when I realized that the kid wasn’t raising cash for camp, he was being punished.
The sign said:
He was humiliated.
Is that good parenting? Is that tough love?
There was a group of people sitting in the grass behind him, about 20 feet away. There were about six or eight of them. They looked like they were tailgating in the shade, oblivious to the endless line of traffic beside them.
Is that good parenting? Is that cruel and unusual? Whatever happened to just beating a kid?
I pretended that I could hear the kid’s thoughts, they were filled with lots of profanity and the words were aimed at his parents.
I watched the kid stand there as countless people passed him, oblivious to his sentence, mocking him, feeling pity. I looked at the people in the shade and I hoped that this was a final straw, a bluff called. I hoped they felt worse than he did.
“What does it say?” my son asked again.
I met his eyes in the rear-view mirror and earned a sign of my own, “It says car wash.”
This post first appeared on DadCentric on August 9, 2008